I read a horrible story the other day about a minister who suggested that parents physically discipline their children for acting homosexual. He has since claimed that he was joking, but I am not so sure.
I have tried to tell you, in the broadest of terms, that you are free to be whoever you want to be, but you know what? You're a baby, and you may not have developed a sense of subtlety yet, so let me make this abundantly clear.
It's OK if you're gay. You're probably not. Most people aren't, but a significant minority are. And if that minority includes you, it is OK.
But here's the thing. It isn't just that it's OK. It's that your father and I just really don't care all that much one way or the other. Your sexuality is something you are born with, so it's only as interesting to us as your eye color or what hand you write with. Sure, we are mildly curious to see which traits you will exhibit, but we aren't going to be spending any time agonizing over the ones that don't turn out the way we expected.
The qualities you are born with are much less important to us than what you do with them. We are much less concerned with your genetic traits than with the choices you make in life. That's what excites us. We care about your joys, your passions, the decisions that you make about how to treat people. That stuff is fascinating! Your sexual preference - eh, that's pretty boring by comparison.
So, if you do wake up one day and realize that your heart doesn't point in the same direction as a lot of guys, I hope you won't waste a moment wondering how your parents will take the news. We will be happy that you choose to share with us, but honestly, we don't really think it is a big deal.
God bless you, Amanda. I only wish that my parents could have half the heart that you do.
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